Today’s tip is about mental health, again. (Is anyone noticing a trend? lol) Things have been hard, I haven’t been shy about admitting that… and I haven’t even tried to hide how hard they’ve actually been. If I didn’t have kids I would no doubt be in my bed, under the covers until my stomach growling forces me to wake up… where I would no doubt drink something rather than eat to calm my stomach and spend the rest of my day zoning out in front of the TV or Internet.
BUT… I am a mom– and as HARD as it is to push that natural inclination away, get up when the kids get up and get out of bed… that is what I have to do. That is what I WANT to do… its just hard to get there. Its easy to move one foot in front of the other but its really hard to keep going sometimes. I get stuck in my head and it is hard to be present for them. As hard as it is, I keep doing it each day and I’m thankful for my littles because they give me that motivation that I need. Doing it for them..helps me too.
Kids don’t sit still. They don’t wait for you to feel like doing anything…they very much operate on their own timeline. So… I wake up and make them breakfast, change diapers, get them dressed, and try desperately to figure out SOMETHING for us to do that day. Whether its read a few books for circle time, drive around while on a Starbucks run, go to the park, or meet up with a friend– doing something is important.
So my quick tip today is, in a way, faking it until you make it. When you can’t find it inside of yourself to keep on going for you… you can do it for your kids. I’ve said it before, children are such beautiful, bright blessings. When I get up and do things for my kids, I get more energy to do things for myself, our home, my husband. When making my daughter’s breakfast I can tidy up in the kitchen for a few minutes, I can take a walk around the neighborhood because my kids need to get out. As a result, I am walking and exerting energy. I’m getting some stress out and moving forward, physically and mentally.
When you can’t carry on, do it anyway. The fact is, we all can give just a little bit more. Sometimes you need your sweet, innocent babies to show you that you do have it in you. They have absolutely no idea how much they’ve changed my life for the better. I struggle. I’m not perfect and am not even close… but I’m just a little better because they are my babies. I’m thankful that they are wild, energetic, healthy children. I have to keep up the energy to keep up with them… and even in the darkest times, I’m always happy to do it.